In study after study, researchers found that when people
envy others – as opposed to simply admire them – it motivates us to do better. But
there’s one cautionary note: we must choose our heroes wisely. We must focus on
people who are doing just a little bit better than us, not those outside of our
reach.
The interplay between envy and admiration is an interesting
one. Both come into play when we view
another’s person’s success, but recent research maintains that these feelings
are strikingly different in their power to move us. A PsyBlog entry, published at spring.org.uk,
quotes from a recent paper by van de Ven et al (2011):
“. . . being envious of another's achievements is painful. To avoid
that pain we translate envy into admiration. In other words: we admit defeat.
The other person's achievements are beyond us; we must resign ourselves to
being inferior. Unfortunately once we've translated envy into admiration, we
lose the motivational power of that envy.”
When it comes to envy, it’s important to note that, in
terms of motivation, we’re talking about “benign envy,” not “malicious
envy.” The difference is whether you
feel that the person’s success is deserved. In other words, malicious envy (a
sense that a person’s success is undeserved) is most often a destructive force,
leading people to strike out in a bid to “bring someone down.” But benign envy,
properly channeled, can help us grow and reach new heights.
A second article at PsyBlog (spring.org.uk) explained
four ways in which benign envy is good for you:
1. Benign envy motivates, “as long as you
compare yourself to the right person,” according to the PsyBlog article.
2. Benign envy feels good. The PsyBlog entry points out: “When we see
other people doing better than us it can give us hope, which makes up feel
good.”
3. Benign envy makes you more creative,
because when we compare ourselves to others, our performance improves,
according to a 2007 Johnson & Stapel study on creativity.
4. Benign envy makes you smarter. PsyBlog
cites a 1999 study by Blanton et al which found that “students who compared
themselves with others tended to do better in school.”
Said Simon Latham, author of "The Science of Sin:
The Psychology of the Seven Deadlies (and why they are so good for you)"
(as quoted in PsyBlog):
“If you have the good fortune to observe a skilled performer, you
watch, you learn and so you perform better. . . . Envy can change your expectations
about what it is possible to achieve.”
Other research findings:
·
Envy vs. admiration – a study out of Tilburg
University (Tilburg, The Netherlands) concluded that benign envy was a
motivating force “only when people thought self-improvement was attainable.
When participants though self-improvement was hard . . . [that] led to more
admiration and no motivation to do better.”
·
Do superstars motivate us? Again, only when their success seems
attainable. A study authored by Penelope Lockwood and Ziva Kunda (University of
Waterloo) found that “Relevant superstars provoke self-enhancement and
inspiration when their success seems attainable but self-deflation when it
seems unattainable.”
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In study after study, researchers found that when people envy others – as opposed to simply admire them – it motivates us to do better. But there’s one cautionary note: we must choose our heroes wisely. We must focus on people who are doing just a little bit better than us, not those outside of our reach.
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